I absolutely love watching a guy whisper sweet affirmations to his partner, sensing the strong bond of their relationship drawing them together and the positive grounding he continually provides . If this describes the relationship with your spouse or partner you might be thinking I really don't need a doula on my birth team...RIGHT???
The truth is...
A doula is never there to take the place of your husband or partner, but rather to enhance and compliment the birth experience. Some have described their husband as their left hand and their doula as their right, working together to support you. Doulas can suggest and provide comfort measures to help relieve tension and labor discomfort, are trained in light touch massage and acupressure points and have the experience of supporting many birthing Mother's. Having a doula on your birth team allows your partner to participate emotionally without having to remember everything from your childbirth preparation class.
During prenatal appointments with my couples we spend time discussing expectations for the spouses involvement during the birth and ways they can be involved if desired. I've spoken with guys who insist they really don't want an active role in their partner's labor but when the time comes they are right there, helping me with counter pressure and empowering their partner through every contraction or birthing surge. Other times, I've talked with guys who want the option to take a more hands-on role but when the moment comes their spouse needs them in a more emotional and less hands- on physical support role than what they first anticipated.
My desire is to support and equip partner's in however they feel most comfortable, sensing the needs of both Mom and Dad and meeting their goals and desires in a gentle and empowering manner.
~Alyssa Moulton is a Certified Hypnodoula who loves supporting her clients from pregnancy through the postpartum time. Her goal is to help each client feel empowered and supported in their birthing decisions. When not serving as a Doula, Alyssa loves teaching youth and adult cooking classes! From Healthy eating and meal planning to homemade pastries and baking themed birthday parties, she loves seeing her student's learn new skills and feel empowered in the kitchen! Interested in learning more? Contact Alyssa for a free consultation. ~
Autumn Alyssa, CHD is a Birth and Postpartum Doula serving women and families from Bountiful to Provo in Davis, Salt Lake & Utah Counties